15
Important Things You Learn From Breaking Up With Friends
Thursday, June 21, 2017 by Entry Tep
There is that often-quoted line
about how breaking up is hard to do. While it’s typically applied to relationships of the romantic variety,
it can also be applied to friendships. Whether you’re the one doing the dumping
or you’re the one on the receiving end of the goodbye, friendship breakups
are hard.
Breaking up with a friend can be as
painful as breaking up with SO. And
sometimes, it’s even worse. You might have thought that you and your BFF
were going to be together forever. You might have envisioned the two of you
growing old and going gray together as you shared inside jokes, but that isn’t
going to happen. As tough as a pill it is to swallow, it’s important to look
beyond because there can actually be some good that comes out of friendship
breakups.
Do I wish for any friendship breakups
to happen? No, definitely not. If you’re going through one, though, try to
remember that these are 15 important things you learn from ending a
friendship and they will help you form better relationships in the future.
1. How to communicate.
Communication plays a big part in
all relationships and it’s something that can make or break many friendships.
If communication was an issue in your friendship, you’ll hopefully have a
better understanding of how to improve in the future.
2.
How to put yourself first.
If you did the breaking up, you
probably didn’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings, but at some point you
realized that you had to say goodbye because it was the best thing for you.
We can often forget about ourselves so reminders such as this are important.
3. What you actually want
in a friendship.
Were there things in your
relationship that you didn’t like? Were there things that you felt were lacking
which is why the friendship went south? It took this not-so-good friendship to
realize these important details so remember them.
4. How to face rejection.
I don’t want to upset anyone, but
rejection is a part of life. It’s something we all have to deal with. Now that
you’ve had to deal with it in your friendship, you’ll be better prepared to
deal with it in other situations.
5. When to walk away from
something.
6. The importance of honesty.
You and your friend could have just
continued on pretending everything was okay and grinning and baring it.
Instead, you took action and ended things. You might not have realized it at
the time, but this is a big lesson in being honest with other people and
yourself.
7. What are deal breakers
for you.
Everyone should have deal breakers
for all kinds of relationships. You might not have had some before this
relationship, but now you should hopefully have a clearer idea of what’s okay
for your friendships and what definitely isn’t.
8. That things don’t always work out
the way you intend them to.
Big life lesson right here. Remember
this one, people.
9. What your weaknesses are.
You might not want to admit it to
yourself, but you probably played a role in this friendship break up, too. If
you have an open mind, you can reflect back on your relationship and figure out
what things you did that might not have been the greatest. Don’t get upset
about them; just focus on ways you can improve on them in the future.
10. What to look for in
future friends.
Sometimes it takes a crappy
relationship to realize what makes a good one. If you found your friend or your
relationship was missing some key elements, be sure to look for those in future
friends.
11. Not everyone gets along
with everyone.
It’s a lesson you probably first
discovered in Kindergarten, but it’s something that you might have forgotten
about until now. Some people get on while others don’t. Period. Try to remember
this one, especially when it comes to crushes.
12. Some people are not
worth your time.
Your time is precious and when you
give it to someone, they should appreciate it. It doesn’t matter who they are.
Nuff said.
13. How to deal with exes.
Chances are you’re probably going to
be seeing your ex-friend around and you’re probably going to have to interact
at some point. You might be dreading this, but awkward ex interacting is a part
of life. So, use this opportunity to hone your skills.
14. That there’s nothing wrong with
being alone.
Don’t ask, because it’s not true. We can
sometimes become so involved in relationships that when we’re actually alone,
we think there’s something wrong with us. There’s not. And there are actually
some brilliant things about being by yourself.
15. How to end a relationship.
It’s a bit of a depressing one, but
rejecting people is something that you’re going to have to deal with again
whether it’s from other friendships, romantic relationships, or even work.
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